About a calendar year and a 50 % back, I apparently adopted “It is what it is” as a own mantra. I use the word “seemingly” simply because I unquestionably failed to notice it at the time. I naturally read it someplace, not guaranteed wherever, but I heard it and it produced its way to that expansive and random region called my brain. I began saying it with a lot more and a lot more frequency, and then I began hearing it ALL the time. It was uttered on practically each individual television channel, radio station, and even by a preacher from the pulpit. I’m certain that just further entrenched it into my vernacular. Some of individuals closest to me resisted its profound simplicity and grew ever more irritated with how generally I invoked it–in particular when I would not knowingly when I read any individual else espouse it so properly.
A frequent argument of those who grew to loathe the phrase was “That is so defeatist. That’s just like offering up.” They have been appropriate. I agreed, on the providing up component in any case. It looks we disagreed on the reward of letting some issues go. I will not declare things to be what they are simply just because I you should not want to do everything to change them. Anybody who is aware of me is familiar with that would normally serve as a larger motivator for me–the imagined of switching a little something believed to be unchangeable. Nor do I proclaim, “It is what it is” as a dismissal of my skills to enact common transform or a statement reflecting apathy.
For me, stating that one thing “is what it is” is an acknowledgment of my id as a mortal. It truly is a assertion of humility. It can be the acknowledgment and acceptance that I am not so magnificent that I can bend any and all matters to my will every time I want to, neither do I believe that that my way is often the ideal way. I equate this phrase with the tenets of the Serenity Prayer. If it belongs to you and you really don’t like it, alter it. If it belongs to someone else and you never like it, find a way to live with it or allow it go since it really is not yours to mess with in any case. And find out where by these boundaries lie in yourself, in your associations, in everyday living.
I have uncovered this phrase coming back to me around and above again in the shoppers I do the job with in my follow. I really encourage all my shoppers to look for their obligation in predicaments, to maintain themselves accountable and then to only accept accountability and accountability for that which is theirs and that which they can alter if they so choose. As for the relaxation of it… allow it go. It is what it is. It is not yours consequently, not yours to resolve.
“It is what it is” is not defeatist, lazy, or apathetic. It is accountable, healing, and freeing. At the very least that has been my expertise, and the practical experience of quite a few other individuals. If what you happen to be doing now isn’t functioning, give a shot. Serenity now!